Dating with herpes by new online dating way

I have had genital herpes since I was 20 years old – that was in 1982. I had been a virgin and decided I was ready to have a more serious relationship. I was very careful. I went to my OB-Gyn for a physical and birth control pills. After dating a few months I asked my boyfriend if there was “anything I needed to know” and later I asked specifically about herpes. He said “don’t worry, you won’t get anything from me.” Well about 3 weeks after having sex, I got sick. By the end of the week I was at my doctors getting the dreadful diagnosis of genital herpes.

There were no online dating websites back in 1982. All of my information and support came from the library, and a local support group. I had a choice – give up – OR – realize that I am still a good person that deserves love and happiness.

So here is my advice. Realize you are not herpes- its just a condition that you have. It should not define you or how you feel about yourself.

Be honest. When dating, get to know the other person. Is this even a person you want to be with long term? Take your time. When you feel like you can trust that person, and before getting too physical, you can tell them about your situation.

Be relaxed. Many people have herpes in one form or another. Most likely they have kissed or slept with someone who has it.

Be proud that you have the integrity to be honest and give them the choice to decide to proceed or not in the relationship.

Dating with herpes