We hope to help you gain the confidence to manage HIV in your daily life. Many people, especially when newly diagnosed, find comfort in knowing that others have similar experiences.
This is how I got HIV (the illness). My ex-boyfriend had a girl braid my hair, and gave me a ride to the gas station, 4 blocks from my place. My son’s father kept on ringing my phone, because if I wasn’t home when he wanted me to, the arguments would start. It was dark, and I was close to my place, when I was put in a headlock, my eyes were covered, and a knife was on my neck. The next thing I know, we’re at a graveyard, in the dark, when this man said to do what I was told, or he would slit my throat. He knew my son’s father’s name as well as my son’s name, and told me he would kill them too. So, I did what he told me to do, and then he ran one way, and I ran the other way. When I got to my place, my son ran to the door, and held on to my leg. He was 4 or 5 then. So, my son’s father wanted to argue, but my son and I went to my room. He’s autistic and was barely talking, but he kept on holding me. Then, I gave in to the argument, while I was crying. I went and took a bath, then brushed my teeth, and used mouthwash to make sure nothing was there. One day, I felt sick, so I bought a pregnancy test, and it was positive. I had a boyfriend at the time, and told him that I was pregnant. I got tired of the mental and verbal abuse, so I left town. I went to the clinic to find out how far along I was in my pregnancy and I have the illness. I started medicine right away. I was scared that my daughter would get it too, because my viral load was at 10,000. A few weeks later, it was undetectable. So, I had my daughter naturally, because if I didn’t, I would bleed out from a c-section. I ha to go back to my place, because I couldn’t get one where I was at, so one day, I left him, because he was putting me down a lot, due to me catching the illness. When my kids and I got on the greyhound, we were free!! My ex-boyfriend supported me until he kept on going to jail. So now I’m here looking for a good man, but thank God my daughter is 7 and HIV free! I feel so free now, thank you God!!
Advice to other members:
My advice to others, is don’t stay in domestic violent situations, because mental and verbal abuse is worse than physical abuse, but no one will do anything about it, so leave. Next, when you have s-e-x with someone, use protection and try to get their info, and write it down. Then get tested because protected or unprotected s-ex, condoms aren’t 100% safe. And finally, make sure you’re in a well lit area and have a friend walk with you or a cell phone and pepper spray with you, to protect yourself. You’re worth it!
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